Favoured Daughters Faith

Dealing with difficult people is a major turn-off that can threaten our Christian faith. We face difficult people almost everywhere (at work, church, grocery stores e.t.c it’s even worse when they are members of your family (sigh, because you are in contact with them constantly).

Experiences with difficult people can play our emotions in different ways. There is a tendency to feel angry, frustrated, hurt e.t.c
These feelings can lead to grudges, exchange of unpleasant words, offences, unforgiveness and resentments. It is important to analyse how to avoid or manage situations like this.

UNDERSTANDING WHO YOU ARE HELPS TO SHAPE YOUR DECISION
• You are the light of the world, an ambassador of Christ (Your actions should reflect how Christ will act).
• You are filled with the Holy Spirit, therefore, you are led by the Holy Spirit, not your emotions.
• You are the precious daughter of the highest God, seeking to please the father. He has instructed us to follow peace with all men without which no one can see God.

Haven mentioned all these points, I know it’s a bit challenging to deal with in real life, I say that because I have encountered difficult people too.

•It’s hard when you are being taken for granted.
• It’s hard when you’ve been disrespected and pushed beyond your limits
• It’s hard when someone is so mean and insensitive
The list could go on!

We hear phrases like “I have lost my patience” “I can’t take this anymore”…If you are at this point, I want to remind you today that with God nothing is impossible and that you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you.

PRACTICAL STEPS TO TAKE IN DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
1. Avoid them if you can Proverbs 22:24-25, Proverbs 20:3
“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared”.

2. Give Soft answers if you need to Proverbs 15:1, Proverbs 17:14 Avoid insults or abusive words.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger”

3. Pray for them (Luke 23:34a) Jesus prayed for those who persecuted him. One way of loving them unconditionally is to pray for them. Sometimes these people are hiding hidden pains from the past or present, betrayals and challenges. They become bitter and just pour out their aggressions and frustration on you.

4. Consider them to be a test of your Christian faith: How do you exhibit the fruits of the Holy Spirit if you’ve not been tested. We can only pass an examination after a test. Situations like this build us up because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
James 1:3‭-‬4

5. Be kind to yourself: In Ephesians 4:26 we see that being angry is not a sin, how we react is what can make it become sinful. Acknowledge how you feel, talk to God about it. Experiences are a part of life, don’t blame yourself or condemn your actions. Learn from your mistakes, dress up and stay cheerful.

“In your anger do not sin” : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Ephesians 4:26

5. Seek Help: When it seems like it’s beginning to affect your mental wellbeing, seek help. Talk to your support system, Talk to experts, Talk to your pastor or trusted spiritual leaders. Do not bottle things up.

6. Set healthy boundaries by communicating: I am a firm believer that communication helps a lot. Prayerfully seeks God’s help and leading. Invite them for a peaceful dialogue (Be real and direct), you can go out for a meal if it’s visible. Let them know what you can tolerate and not tolerate, try to find out why they act the way they do, apologise to each other if necessary. That way it hopefully won’t repeat itself again.

In conclusion, how we handle difficult people is peculiar to each situation (the person’s temperament and values come into play in making our decision. Prayerfully seek God’s guidance.

I have been blessed to know Pamela who is a best selling author, publishing consultant and a speaker/evangelist. She uses her gift to promote a lifestyle of faith, prayer and hope in Jesus Christ. She is a mentor to many and encourages others especially aspiring authors by providing them with resources needed to aid them in their place of calling.

Pamela recently released her latest book titled “WHILE AT THE ALTAR”. This book is a book on prayer and her aim for writing this book is to encourage other believers to adopt a lifestyle of prayer and to increase our faith in the power of prayer. In this book she establishes how prayer works wonders.

MY REVIEW OF THE BOOK: WHILE AT THE ALTAR

I call this book a “book in season” for me. I write about struggles Christian women face and I must admit that a major struggle in my journey of faith has been that of prayer.

I’m glad I got the opportunity to read a spirit-birth book in a period I needed it the most. Pamela wrote from a place of deep concern: I could sense it.

Praying: “This statements has become so cliche until I often wonder, are we really talking to God or are we just saying we are”

Pamela D. Smith

Truly I see the word “Praying” 🙏 almost everywhere especially on faith-based social media accounts where people raise their concerns.
Sometimes I’m one of those who type praying under a comment: I mumble few words, other times if I don’t pray immediately there is always tendency to forget.

Are we really praying? Are we praying right?

We know that prayer is an integral part of our walk with God. Prayer is simply communicating with God and constant communication bring intimacy, hence its importance.

I really liked how Pamela didn’t just tell us only what to do in this book, she showed us how to pray. Remember when Jesus disciples asked him to teach them how to pray! Jesus set the example in the book of Luke 11:1-5 by teaching us how to pray.
Pamela a faithful follower of Christ has also followed the perfect example of our Master.

While at the altar contains practical prayers on different topics and also has powerful prophetic affirmations.

In this book Pamela shares with us real-life experiences. I love how real and transparent she was in sharing her stories some of which I found emotional.

This book cover testimonies of God’s faithfulness, this gives us the boldness to know that while at the altar! We can get results if we pray the right way.

This book is packed with a lot of wisdom and leasons.

I strongly recommend this book for:

• Those that are wanting to learn how to pray and why we pray

• Those struggling to pray but desire
a revived/restored prayer life

• Those that feel they pray but get no answers! Perhaps you need to employ some of the strategies revealed in this book on praying winning prayers

• Those experiencing anxiety

• Those wanting to unlock the key ingredients to success while at the altar by praying winning prayers.

This book will motivate your faith, I hear people say phrases like “God when” a lot when they hear others sharing testimonies. The truth is, your life is a testimony and God is waiting to showcase his glory in your life. Your story too can bless others! It starts at the altar.

TOP 3 PERSONAL LESSONS I LEARNT FROM THE BOOK WHILE AT THE ALTAR

√ Even though this book is not about primarily about marriage, I personally learnt from some of the experiences Pamela shared. It taught me great marriage lessons to employ in my marriage.

√ This book has taught me how to re-evaluate my prayer life and how to strategically pray winning prayers.

√ A part of this book spoke extensively on kingdom service, I loved how encouraging it was to me. It was loaded with great lessons for me.

I strongly believe that this book will ignite a fresh fire 🔥 in you. It is not an ordinary book, it is inspired from a place of vision.

This book is an excellent prayer resource to have. It will also serve as a great gift to family and friends. Be a blessing to others ❤

You can also purchase following this link:

https://www.pameladsmith.net/product-page/while-at-the-altar

My Rating: 5/5 Stars

About the Authour

Pamela D. Smith is a Transformational Speaker and Writer who delivers with passion and confidence. She engages crowds with thought-provoking topics and content. Pamela’s speaking and workshop facilitating equips attendees with tools and tips that will develop them personally and spiritually.

Pamela has dedicated her diverse pursuits to elevating the lives of women around the world. Her speaking and writing allows her to connect with others at church events, conferences, panels and even corporate platforms.

To share your testimonies from reading this book or to access other resources from the author, please connect with her on http://www.pameladsmith.net or follow her on IG: http://www.instagram.com/pameladsmith1

I have been chronically ill for over seven years.
I have prayed over and over again for God to heal me. Throughout the years, I have had family and church members praying for me. I even went to the elders of the church and had them pray over me and anoint me with oil.
And God has yet to heal me.
The pain of dealing with an illness which knows no end is heartbreaking.

But Jesus is no stranger to heartbreak

In Luke 22:42-44 we see Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane right before he would be betrayed and crucified. He says:

“Father if you are willing, please take this cup from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”

Then the bible says an angel appeared and strengthened him. And then Jesus prayed more fervently and was in such agony his sweat fell to the ground like great drops of blood.
Jesus prayed while in pain. And while the Father strengthened him, he did not take the pain away.

In Hebrews 12:2b the bible says

“For the joy set before him, he [Jesus] endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”

Perhaps, what helped Jesus endure was knowing He could trust His Father. He knew God would work his anguish out for the good of all people. He knew it would be worth it in the end because the pain would be short lived compared to the eternity he would secure for us in heaven.

God strengthened Jesus. But he did not remove the cross.
And then God used Jesus to redeem every person who has ever lived or ever will live. When Jesus trusted God’s plan, God used the hard thing he endured for something grand.
In the same way, when we encounter difficult situations in life, God may choose to strengthen us instead of taking our difficulties away. He may choose to grow our faith, instead of healing us. He may choose to help us learn to lean on his strength, instead of removing the thorn from our side.
Paul knew this well. In 2 Corinthians 12:7-9 he says:

“I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’”

God strengthened Paul by reminding him of his grace. But God did not remove the painful thorn.
And then God used Paul in mighty ways to build his church and write many books in the New Testament which still influence readers today.

When Paul trusted God’s plan, God used what he endured to create something grand.

We may pray for God to heal us or to remove a miserable circumstance from our life, but what will we do if he chooses not to?

•We can lean on His strength to help us endure. We can trust in His plan and His ability to work it all out for our good. (Romans 8:28).

•We can remember He promise to never leave us or forsake us. (Deuteronomy 31:8).

•And we can remember our pain here will be short lived compared to the eternity awaiting us.

It can be hard when God chooses to strengthen us instead of removing our suffering.
But when we trust in God’s plan, he can turn our pain into something grand.

AUTHOR BIO

Collene is wife and mother of three who loves to write in her spare time. She loves to inspire and encourage women to find their hope in Jesus and seek rest in His Presence so that they will know they are loved, adored, forgiven, and can be used for His Kingdom no matter how broken they are.

You can connect with her on her Blog http://www.restandchaos.com or over on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/restandchaos or Instagram http://www.instagram.com/restandchaos

In times like this where the world is in so much uncertainty, the economy is on hold, church buildings are closed, social gatherings prohibited, schools closed, events postponed, infact the list could go on….who is your anchor?

In a period where fear has ravaged the hearts of men, where do you turn for help? Who do you look up to?

The bible says in Psalm 91 that he who dwells in the secret place of the most high shall abide under the shadow of the almighty. More than ever before we are encouraged to dwell in the secret place and one of the ways of doing this is by studying the word of God (Bible Study). One thing bible study does is that it exposes us to the light in God’s word and it reveals deep and hidden truths to us.

Review of the Bible Study devotional: Anchored

I have heard people say I studied that verse but couldn’t understand what it meant or I picked up the bible and didn’t know where to start. Devotionals are a great tool to use in studying the word of God. For a time like this, I will highly recommend a new devotional I have been opportuned to read titled Anchored. It is written by Ifeoma Samuel a seasoned teacher of the word. I first came in contact with this devotional on the purposeful and meaningful facebook page.

To say that this devotional is a blessing is an understatement. When I read this devotional I felt a huge sense of connection with God and I particularly liked that about it. This devotional will stir your heart to dig deeper into God’s word. I found anchored Bible study devotional to be very uplifting and encouraging, it is full of wisdom.

Through studying this devotional I have learnt what it means to be an anchored woman.

You will find this devotional very useful if you are seeking answers to any of these questions and more:

• I feel burdened, what do I do?

• This season of life I am navigating through is tough! Please help

• I want my heart to pant after God

• I am a Christian but I am also still afraid! Why?

• This minute I am excited and full of faith, the next minute it’s anxiety and no faith! Why?

The devotional anchored comes with answers to these questions. Anchored is a 4 weeks devotional bible study plan that covers deep bible study each day. I really loved the practicality of this book as it comes with practical real life stories and experiences to learn from, each day also comes with its own unique bible passages to read, detailed explanations, questions to meditate on and prayers.

To Effectively study this devotional, I would advise that:

1. Spend Time in Prayer: Pray that God will speak to you through this devotional and that God will give you a heart that will receive his word.

2. Spend Time in Worship: Use which ever form of worship works best for you. I love good christian music as it sets a good atmosphere.

3. Get your Writing Materials: Get a pen, highlighter, notepad or a journal. Write down key points as you study, most importantly it is great to write down what the lord is saying to you in the process of studying this devotional.

4. Avoid Distraction: You will need a quiet space that will enable you focus on your bible study.


This devotional Anchored by Ifeoma Samuel is a must have for any woman who loves bible study and is yearning a deeper relationship with God.

It can also serve as a perfect gift to family and friends. I hope it blesses and encourages you like it did to me.

To purchase please follow this link https://purposefulandmeaningful.com/product/anchored-4-weeks-of-reviving-hope

My Rating: 5/5 stars

About the Author

Ifeoma Samuel is your down-to-earth
Bible Study writer and speaker who is
passionate about helping women find
true joy in everyday life.

Ifeoma enjoys encouraging women to go deeper in search of God’s truth for
their lives through many conferences,
books, videos and articles scattered all
over the web.

She has spent years being a children
and youth teacher and mentor. She
spends time complying interactive Bible Studies and Bible plans for children and women. She also hosts her
Youtube channel.

She is happily married to her sweet heart, Obiora, and they are parents
to one lovely daughter.

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Have you ever been called names for professing your love for Jesus? Where I come from they label people in this category with names like spiri coco (overly spiritual), mama Jesu (Mother of Jesus), Assistant Holy Spirit e.t.c

Have you ever been seen as judgemental or an overly excited Christian who is taking things too far or too serious! Calm down they say, it’s not that deep!…it’s not that serious! After all I’m a Christian too and God is understanding…Why is your own Christianity different? Why do you talk with so much passion?

You see someone living a life that doesn’t please God and out of genuine concern you call out the person by telling the plain truth, the person in defense gives you a look or an attitude that depicts mockery or please mind your business or please don’t judge me or sis you ain’t perfect too 😳

I’m sure some sisters can relate to this post and sometimes it gets you thinking 💭 Perhaps I need to calm down!
I share below some things to note:

1. ONLY GOD’S OPINION MATTER: You alone understand your encounter with the Lord, nobody else knows, what did the Lord tell you? What message did he give to you? If God has given you a particular message that the world needs to hear then it pleases me to tell you to obey God’s instructions completely. You don’t want to please a man to displease God! No! If you read the book of Ezekiel, you will see that the Lord made Ezekiel a watchman in his time, the Lord gave him specific messages to warn the rebellious people. In Ezekiel 3:17-18 the Lord warned Ezekiel to speak his message to the people in other not to be held accountable for their blood. In Ezekiel 3:14 we saw that an encounter can stir up holy anger in one’s spirit. In Ezekiel 3:11 we also saw the fact established by the Lord who told Ezekiel to speak his message whether people listen or not! That is a strong indication that not everyone will agree with you. Speak Anyway! Don’t lose focus because of what someone said, face your calling.

2. TEST THE SPIRIT: This is particularly important when the criticism is coming from a supposed Christian 1 John 4:1. There’s no need to test the spirit that operates in the life of a non-Christian but when it comes to someone who calls himself or herself a Christian giving you a look of you are being judgemental in how you relay your faith, you need to test the spirit in operation in the life of that person. By the help of the Holy Spirit, you will be able to tell the place their criticism is coming from because the fruits will speak (Is it from a place of love, Comparison, Jealousy, competition e.t.c).

3. UNDERSTAND YOUR IDENTITY: You are who God says you are, man’s opinion doesn’t define you. Your self-worth or confidence cannot be rubbished because of man’s action. Study the word of God, understand who you are in Christ Jesus and walk boldly in your inheritance.

4. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS: Our flesh is led by our emotions and the natural reaction from mean comments will be to get hurt, offended or angry. As Christians we are led by the HolySpirit and he has given us the grace to exercise self-control in not taking offence. In Matt 24:10 (NKJV) The bible says in the last days many will be offended, they will betray one another and hate one another. It’s scriptures

5. PRAY FOR THEM: Talk to God about it also pray for your critics. Pray that they have a divine encounter with God and that God will reveal his truth to them.

6. SEEK GODLY COUNSEL: Talk to seasoned men and women of God, your community of real followers of Christ or your spiritual mentors. Talk to them about it, if you are not on the right track they will let you know.

7. TALK TO YOUR CRITIC: Pray before doing this and ask God to touch the heart of your critics before approaching them. Gently clarify anything that has been taken out of context through the leading of the Holy Spirit. I have a post on IG addressing Handling criticism among believers you can read it here https://www.instagram.com/p/B7wyu4hnkPl/?igshid=obca3ku82v2b

To keep your faith alive and active, stay connected to your source (God). Stay in tune with the Holy Spirit and constantly fellowship in bible study, prayer, fasting and all forms of spiritual exercises that helps your spiritual growth. Don’t give up! Great is your reward ❤

Please share your thoughts in the comments 👇

The pharisees were believers and a religious set/party in the bible (Acts 15:5). They were teachers of the law of moses (Matt 23:2) and where very active while Christ was here on earth. They fasted often (Matt 9:14) and also believed in angels and spirits (Acts 23:8). They however were known for criticising Jesus, they plotted to kill him (Matt 12:14) and also refused to be baptised by John the Baptist (Luke 7:30). Jesus reffered to them as blind guides (Matt 23:16).

I got the inspiration to write on this topic some months ago while I was studying the book of Matthew, I then began to realise that there are modern day pharisees in the world today who may not necessarily know they are one.
I encourage you sisters to study the points below on signs of being a modern day pharisee 👇

12 SIGNS OF A MODERN DAY PHARISEE

1. You do not want to be associated with sinner, you consider yourself too holy to talk to them. Jesus while on earth was found among tax collectors (Matt 9:11). In matt 9:13 he said he didn’t come for the healthy (righteous) but for the sick.
   Note: Learn to set boundaries through the leading of the Holy Spirit.
2. You are always looking to find fault or criticise especially from your spiritual leaders. (Luke 6:7)
3. You ask question with the wrong motive (not because you want to learn) but because you want to test. (Matt 19:3)
4. The truth or correction offends you (Matt 15:12)
5. You love and value money so much that you can even compromise your faith (Luke 16:14-15)

6. You are difficult to convince, you want a sign (Matt 16:1). You believe so much that you are right afterall you have done your research and you are well educated.
7. You teach but don’t practice it (You are not a good example) Matt 23:3
8. When your service is being done as a show-off. You hold recognition in high esteem, you exhibit pride, you cherish being greeted with respect so much that you get offended if you don’t get it. (Matt 23:5-7)
9. You evangelise but don’t teach the complete truth(false teaching) you over-burden new converts with man-made beliefs.(Matt 23:15
10. You pick scriptures that suit you and neglect others important principles of the bible. Matt 23:23
11. You are so concerned about your outward appearance( you spend so much on skin care products and nice clothings/accessories but you neglect the most important thing (the state of your heart).
    Note: Looking good is very good but please make sure your heart is equally beautiful. Seek first the kingdom. Matt 23:25
12. You are hypocritical by showing a form of godliness, you look like a child of God but inwardly you harbour wickedness. Matt 23:28

Sisters 😊❤ I write this not as a perfect Christian, as a matter of fact! I learn from every post I put out because I do not want to be a cast away after I have preached. I try as much as possible to go back to my post (read them again) and make amends if necessary.

I beseech you sisters to examine yourselves and ask for God’s mercy if you notice any of these traits. It is dangerous to neglect it because Jesus reffered to the Pharisees as not being candidate of the kingdom of God. All that we do is to give glory to God and to ultimately inherit the kingdom of God.

WHAT TO DO

1. Pray! Run to God, ask for his mercy. Ask the Lord to search your heart (tell him to expose wrong motives, wickedness) tell him to give you a heart that is right towards him.
2. Humble yourself, all that you are is by the grace of God. Matt 23:12

I close with this verse, always remember it.

Phillipians 2:5-11

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;

rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.
Note: Another version says he made himself of no reputation: The moment you begin to place yourself high and expect people to see you that way you will experience disappointment, follow Jesus steps.

And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!

Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name,

that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,

and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

Shalom! ❤

The world is full of options and choices. We are responsible for our choices. The choices we make in life can affect us either positively or negatively. Even the gospel of our Lord Jesus is not forced on anyone however we are encouraged to choose Jesus so that we can have eternal life.

As Women not everything is beneficial e.g In this world people have the right to smoke or drink alcohol (18 years +) but it’s not beneficial to the health, this is one of many examples. More so as Christian women there are limits to what we can do:
• If it is outside God’s will don’t do it!
• If it will hurt you or break another sister (Person) you probably shouldn’t do it!

1 Corinthians 10:23
“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive.

Thank God for the Holy Spirit he tells us what and what not to do! It’s important to remain connected and obedient. Many times when he tells us stop talking unnecessarily, be in godly relationships, stay off social media or other entertainment we stubbornly ignore him. One of the things that led me into social media evangelism was because I was very active on it entertaining my flesh! I had to channel my social media presence into something beneficial. I list below 👇

10 THINGS BENEFICIAL TO A CHRISTIAN WOMAN
1. Reading the bible
2. Praying to God
3. Displaying the fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22) in our speech and actions
4. Building a godly family (Training her children in the way of the Lord)
5. Investing in her calling
6. Practicing good hygiene and modesty in appearance
7. Supporting the needs of others if you have the resources
8. Volunteering in your local church/community
9. Maintain godly friendship to encourage one other (Iron sharpens Iron)
10. Staying Humble but also confident in the Lord

Dear Christian bloggers, I want to share some of the lessons the Lord taught me from 1 Cor chapter 3. This assignment could be challenging and overwhelming but with God we are overcomers.

In verse 4: Following started in the bible days😁Lol! By extension now we follow on social media because we are in that eraa

In verse 5: We are reminded that every ministry you follow is only God’s servant who has a task assigned to them by God. Hence your niche 😊

In verse 6-7: You plant the seed through sharing your post, others waters by sharing your post, supporting you to get your message out. ONLY God gives the increase (growth). The planter and the one who waters is nothing (Don’t be full of yourself).

In verse 8: The planter and the one who waters are working towards the same purpose (draw people to Jesus). It’s not a competition, there’s a reward.

Verse 11: Don’t sugarcoat or water your message. Your foundation should be Jesus Christ

Verse 13: The quality of our work will be tested…our motives will be revealed

Verse 18: Don’t get carried away by the standard of this world. It’s a deceit (More Followers= More success). If your message is meant for one soul and you have one follower, it’s success. Don’t stress! Don’t run ahead of God…if he wants you to reach more he will make provisions!

Verse 20: Wisdom of this world leads to futile thinking. The devil attacks our thoughts(I speak from experience) Stay with Jesus by relying on his wisdom.

Your message counts! Build with care ❤

Hello Sisters 💖 I am sure almost everyone knows that there is a sovereign being with supernatural qualities up there in heaven (Please read psalm 104). Some people believe, some do not! I encourage you this morning to believe in God, his son Jesus Christ and also spread the love.

Being wise is acknowledging God’s almightiness and giving him thank for all he has done.

Romans 1:20‭-‬22 For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made so that people are without excuse.

🌼Two things that happen when we don’t acknowledge God? (Answer Capitalised).

For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their THINKING became FUTILE and their foolish HEARTS were DARKENED. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools.They exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshipped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised.

God checks the state of our hearts, he wants us to be saved but he does not force anyone except in some exceptional cases as seen in the life of Apostle Paul, he is the potter, he knows why he created us all (some for special use, some for common use), we all carry different levels of grace that is why comparison is a no no. God is unquestionable. He examine the state of our heart.
Does your heart pant after God or is it full of sinful desires?

If you want more of God, God will reveal himself to you.

If not he will give you over in the sinful desires of your hearts Roms 1:24

Be Wise!

Think of at least three things God has done for you, give him thanks. Make thanking God and acknowledging him a lifestyle.